There are zealots on both sides, but the core goal of the movement was equal rights for all Americans. People will always have differing opinions, but denying rights to someone based on your opinion IS bigoted. I'm not saying now you have to go out and get a gay marriage; I'm not saying you have to accept it as part of your life or religion. If gay marriage legitimately affects your heterosexual marriage, then it's probably an effect that ALL other marriages have, not just gay. The reality is that this issue has NOTHING to do with religion, and everything to do with civil liberties. We're not trying to force the LDS Church, or any church, to marry homosexual couples - just the government, and religion has no place in the rule of law. 

You are fully entitled to your opinion that gay marriage is wrong - but that doesn't mean that opinion has any place in public policy. Put yourself in their shoes - wouldn't you be deeply hurt/offended if a huge section of the population suddenly decided the LDS Church was immoral, and began denying you basic rights based on that completely subjective judgment?

These rulings weren't about changing hearts and minds of people whose opinions will never be swayed. They're about establishing equal rights for all Americans, no matter who they love. If two men have been in a loving, committed, monogamous relationship for 55 years, who are you to deny them the right to marry? In what way does this right affect you - and even if it does, why are you more important than them?